In the same way when there are disappointments keep the flowers of smile blooming. You should smile more when you feel sadder because at that time you need happiness. When the body becomes weak there is a need for some tonic. You have to balance yourself when you are not able to balance yourself.
Have more patience
When you begin to lose confidence then you need to have more patience. You will have to console yourself more than ever before. You will have to wipe your own tears yourself. Nobody will come forward to give you encouragement. You will stay in the crowded world but you will have to stay there all alone. Whenever you need something the most that too will go away from you. Conditions and time will stand against you.
Have full confidence
However, when you are in a good and positive frame, many people will force themselves on you and give you advice and pretend to be your well-wishers. Hence do not become weak, remain alert, be strong and have full confidence in yourself.
Encouraging and inspiring for a good cause
Behave like a commander: If you become weak many forces will come around you to weaken you further. In fact, no one becomes weak by himself but the circumstances make one weak. But remember this – do not let the weaknesses surround you to an extent that you become helpless to fight them away. A good commander is the one who does not let his forces become weak, keeps on encouraging the soldiers and raising their moral and spirits. You should become the source of inspiration for the members of your family. Keep on encouraging them and inspiring them for a good cause. Lead them to reach their goal.
Don’t shed tears in front of the world
You should be a source of strength to them all. If there are tears in your eyes for some reason or the other, do not shed them in front of the world – rather cry, if you must, discreetly. Never cry before the world otherwise people will feel disheartened seeing the commander crying. Tears in the eyes of the commander are the signs of weakness. The commander has to be brave and put up a brave face. Remember this – you are like a commander in the midst of the members of your family whether they are big or small. It is a good thing to have a consultation with them but the consultation should not be the sign of any weakness. Do not surrender before anyone. Hold fast to your views, but do not impose your views on others. Try to build a consensus. This is the quality of a good leader.
Dr Archika Didi
