Manmohan Dhar
World is changing at a very fast speed. So is our country, our neighborhood, our society and our culture.
And it is very hard to put brakes on the changing life style, food habits, social instincts, alarmingly damaging approach to life, of the present day youth. Though we may not generalise the situation but yes a large section of the youth is definitely not on the right path in their pursuit.
In fact, to be very frank, damage, I am afraid, has been done, and all the blame for that can not be put on the youth only.
Society, work culture, social media and the parents as well, are to be blamed for the remotely repairable damage that has been caused. Why I say “remotely repairable”, has a strong reason behind that, which is that we should never, under any circumstances, say that this damage can’t be fixed.
I feel, if we all act towards the right direction, with a right approach and with a strong and firm resolve, we will succeed in repairing the damage, before it is too late.
Children, in the present educational scenario, live with their parents till they qualify their higher secondary academics. After that they either qualify for professional studies or for any other stream of academics, for which they have to leave the home and live at a separate place with altogether a separate environment.
This is where the problem starts cropping up.
But those twelve years of academic study can play a vital role in the psyche of a particular child, if the parents put in their best in shaping and polishing the mind set of their children. Because these are basically the most crucial years of a child where he or she can be motivated and inspired to follow what is right for him or her.
When the parents don’t falter their duties, when they understand the virtues and shortcomings of their children, when they make use of time, the most, in teaching their children, the essence of this world and the purpose to live in it, then there is no reason why we can not conquer the evil.
There are so many aspects of life which need one on one with respect to the children and their parents, and lot many need to be addressed with utmost caution and belongingness because when it comes to a bright and acceptable future of our children, we as parents can never afford to be careless or for that matter ignorant about the growth and development of our children.
As parents we have to take time out, in persuading our children to understand the meaning of being noble, gentle, generous, painstaking, helpful and above all obedient, so that when our children are exposed to external stumili, they are able to resist and in the bargain impart less damage to their growing persona.
Children too, are human being, just like their parents. They can come across a variety of people with altogether a different mental setup and a different pattern of reacting abilities to deal with outside world. So with everything just averse to what they thought their environment to be, they ought to manage, with all the IQ at their command, to come up to the expectations of their parents. This is what most of the parents keep…… expectations!
Well to expect good is not bad, but to expect good without thinking that this expecting factor, may in the long run create a sense of fear in his mind, and instead of trying to do good or be good, he may lose the grip and get swayed into something very bad.
So expectations need to be minimised. We may exercise our right to be the parents who always want to protect their children, expecting them to be good, but expectations need to be minimal.
When something good comes your way unexpectedly, it gives a feeling of joy, contentment and tremendous satisfaction.
Children too, need time to settle in a particular environment.
And I can assure you, if your home work has been up to the mark, they won’t disappoint you.
So for all those parents who are never ready to take the brunt of responsibility on their shoulders, I would suggest they take time out, from their busy schedule and devote it towards their children during their all important academics, when they are all out to listen to whatever you tell them in framing their future.
Let us all take the call well on time and nip the evil in the bud, before it is too late.
Because, it is really, never, too late.
What is needed is the “Action, at a right time, at a right place and of course with the right person”.
Children and parents, both can play a very vital and pivital role in nation building. All that is needed is the sincere effort and firm resolve to be instrumental in transforming the society.
Ours is a very rich culture and to preserve the essence of its richness, we shall have to be the whistleblowers. If we see or come to know about something concerning our children or for that matter someone else’s children, which in one way or the other is not good for them, we should raise our voice. Because we owe it to the human race and humanity.
