Ayaan Saroori
In the smart gadget era, being used for the purpose of entertainment, humour and knowledge we have lost the true gems of our family-our grandparents. Our region has a strong history of family values, where discussions led by family elders held an importance.
However, our culture is fading. From the very beginning, grandparents were the imaged as an apple of the eye of their families.
They played a vital role in preserving cultural, religious and decision-making traditions. Unfortunately, with time, due to our busy schedule and digital distractions, various grandparents are left unheard and their wisdom remains silent. While, many young people feel bored listening to their tales as they enjoy scrolling.
Why do we not have an hour to celebrate it with grandparents?
Due to the acute stage of mobile addiction where entertainment is easily available and knowledge is free of cost. Meanwhile, employed people are busy to handle their work.
It leads us to a gradual loss. Once in our life, while breakfast or dinner,we have heard about those tales and stories recited by the grandparents of our parents. These tales also signifies about their moral and emotional values. However, many of the their habits are transferred to our parents.
Hence a popular saying about a person’s surrounding goes fitted distinctly.
As a part of our family discussion in the region of J&K, many of our parents recall their young age and their attachment with their grandparents. They often reveal their nature and golden words.
The time remains same but we have become seekers of smart gadgets and have lost them. Over fading out of the family discussions and less communication environment at homes, leads to a worsen world of less family discussion.
We must hold social media and smartphones responsible for the happening.
Parental Influence: The Root of the Communication Gap.
The young people and teenagers, feel crazy to talk with their friends but not their parents or grandparents.
This is harsh to bear but is currently happening in our society. School going students do not want to make accountability before their parents over pocket money and academics related matters.
How can any grandparent be a third wheel if a parent is not valued? As above we discussed that screen addiction is responsible for the whole but this trend arose in recent years.
Many of us have grandparents but they are lonely and none among us is willing to listen to them, discuss our matters with them.
The whole trend starts with the parents and will get to them. As parents do not prefer talking with their old-aged parents, how can their children discuss with the grandparents.
Gradually, it will cut off the communication with grandparents as well as parents. Like so, a chain started by the parents will end at the parents.
A couple of weeks ago, senior doctors and lawyers from the valley openly discussed the cons of the rising digital addiction. Whereas, many individuals use screens for the benefit but many use it for overcoming pressure, relaxation and entertainment purposes.
While a family discussion with grandparents and parents remains untouched. For both the users,a family discussion should be a priority. Discussions and talks with grandparents inspires a person and foster a way of speaking, managing stress and other matters logically. As many grandparents being uneducated knowns the struggle of life and act patiently to any emergency. This is the pearl which we have to find from the sea but findings required discussion and open communication.
In this tough time where screens have become pleasures and we have signed off from society, open-communication is very necessary to revive it.
These discussions remind us about the struggle of our grandparents, their moral values and challenges they faced in terms of study and economic hardships. They need our love through talking to them humbly.
For what time screens will make us happy?
(The writer is a freelance writer and columnist)
