There is much debate on different kinds of pollution – water, soil, air and other elements. But the most dangerous of them all is mental pollution that is rarely acknowledged and hardly discussed in public forums. Any kind of mental affliction is left to either psychiatrists or religious masters, whereas it really needs to come out into the open and discussed freely in educational institutions and work places, as well as in homes.
The Dalai Lama has talked at great length about destructive emotions that are caused by having a self-centred attitude and by believing that reality is as it appears. The antidotes to destructive emotions are compassion and the realisation that nothing exists as it appears. Once we are able to ward off negativities, we can obtain the perspective required to embrace all that is good, overcome all that is destructive, and enjoy peace and harmony and experience love at all levels.
The root of all unpleasantness and unhappiness is lack of kindness and compassion, the base qualities on which one can build a life of happiness. It is said that anyone who causes you to feel anger, is in fact wielding power over you. And one of the ways by which we can protect ourselves from getting overpowered in this manner, is to practise compassion that creates acceptance and understanding, then there is no scope for anger.
Emotions per se are not destructive; they become so only when we express them in inappropriate ways. Becoming self-aware but not self-centred is the first step towards recognising one’s emotions for what they are and learning to detect what is toxic to mind, body and soul. Once we allow mental pollution to take place, it can spread and tighten its grip over our lives, ruining it not just for us but for all those around us.
Suppressing negative emotions may make things worse. Hence, scientists and masters advise us to acknowledge and accept those emotions, first, and then slowly overcome them. To understand our emotions better, scientists are trying to map them, so that navigation becomes possible. Creating an ‘atlas’ of emotions, they identify the varying degrees by which anger could manifest, as annoyance, frustration, exasperation, argumentativeness, bitterness, vengefulness and fury.
Once we begin to use one or more of these manifestations as the prism through which we perceive people and situations, the trouble starts. In order to stand outside of these manifestations, we need to detach ourselves from emotions and see things as they are, but lovingly, with a compassionate eye. Response is far superior to reaction – you respond in an informed manner, whereas your reaction is based on extreme emotion.
At a party, there was heated discussion on a controversial topic of current interest. Reactions ranged from call for bans, ostracisation and punishment to severe sanctions. An elder, who was sitting quiet, was asked what he thought the solution could be. He said, “Yes, things will fall into place and storms will abate in due course, if not now, perhaps in a year or two.” The amazed audience of youngsters could not grasp the import of what he said. Of course, an emergency situation would call for instant action but festering issues really need to be seen in the backdrop of time and context. There may not be instant solutions.
Philosophical platitudes may not work in dire situations that call for emergency measures but by and large, most issues that are blown out of proportion need to be given time to settle down, and appropriate action taken in due course. Narayani Ganesh